Update!

It feels a little like we are on a VERY slow boat to China right now.  Although we have moved forward with the egg donation process we still have a lot to do and wait for.

It's quite the process.  Lots of legalities when trying to have or make a baby the totally unconventional way.  So this is where we stand...

1.  Picked an egg donor

2. Reached out to the donor agency and selected our donor aka baby momma

3. Selected a lawyer... Oh yes custody!  We wouldn't want baby momma coming and chasing down her DNA after I've carried and birthed the child.  So thus far we have only signed our contract agreement with the donor agency and agreed upon a final amount that we will owe 

4.  Paid the initial fee to the donor agency of $$$$.... It's all worth it right???

5. Baby momma had her psych evaluation!!! Yay she is normal.  Check that one off the list!!

6.  Matt and Jenn visit the shrink in Naperville!  Yes we too have to have a psych evaluation to ensure we are mentally ok. Matt and I about died when we heard that we had to go.  Seriously lady if 5 miscarriages one at 5.5 months and almost 3 years of trying to have a kid haven't put us in the loony bin than I think we are ok.  We've done part one of our visit and have another appointment next week. Thank you modern medicine for "billing" for two appointments because we "ran out of time to answer all of the questions".  So thus far we think we've passed... Next week will really be the test

7.  Now we wait... Baby momma should be expecting her period, I mean Aunt Flo, next week.  Once she gets her period, on the 3rd day of her period she will go to a local clinic close to her hometown and get blood work and an ultrasound

If all of that is good... Next step is for her to come to Chicago to meet with Dr. Miller and get more testing done.  So many steps to ensure she is a good match.  Thus far it looks like we will be starting ivf injections the end of July and then implanting in August with hopefully two really good embryos.  Twins wouldn't be so bad right ?

Baby Momma, pregnancy, and a miscarriage

As always life is such a wild ride for Matt and I.  Over the past 3 weeks Matt and I decided to proceed with a donor egg, found out we were naturally pregnant, miscarried, and decided to again proceed with a donor egg.

As always I try to find the positive side of my miscarriages.  For miscarriage #5 I can say it confirmed and gave me more peace of mind to proceed with the donor egg process.  Although I try to not get my hopes up every time I have a pregnancy ( even if it is just for a few weeks) I always pray that it is going to be the one.  Well not this one, so now we are moving ahead with a donor.

Let me fill ya'll in.  Matt and I had a great vacation in Nashville (see pictures below).  We took a road trip which allowed for 14 hours in the car and a few days to sit and talk, laugh, enjoy life, and decide on our next step in trying to create a family.  We decided to proceed with the donor process.  Prior to our vacation I had contacted some local agencies and searched through the potential donors. 

We decided once we returned home to go through the list again and see if we were interested in anyone.  On a side note I had missed my period BUT after the 6+ pregnancy tests I had taken that were all negative, I felt comfortable chalking a missed period up to stress ( my body tends to do this sometimes) and not a pregnancy and move forward with a donor.

When we returned home after searching through 5 different agencies we decided on our baby momma ( we've decided to call her that to protect her identity) through an agency called graceful conception.   I reached out to see if she was still available and she was.  One day later I took one more pregnancy test just to make sure it was just stress and BAM that dang thing was positive....

So now we had agreed to have a baby momma and I was pregnant ( like 5.5 weeks pregnant)  Maybe a little cruel but I think this is gods sense of humor. He is laughing with us as to just how crazy this is.  Always when I plan something a whole new path arises... Hence the name of my blog.  Only to be fair I notified the donor agency and told them I was pregnant but had a high chance of miscarriage as in the past I miscarried very early in between 5.5-7 weeks.  

Sure enough as fast as I found out I was pregnant I started to miscarry.  Matt was out of town on business so thankfully my mom came to be with me for the week.  God must have listened because I prayed that it wasn't going to be as bad as my previous two natural miscarriages had been in 2012.  Thankfully they were not.  So as soon my doctors office confirmed I was about to miscarry Matt contacted the agency to see if our baby momma was still available.  Thankfully she was ( although a few other couples were interested in her) and we were able to commit to her.

So stay tuned for a whole new ride... Baby momma and the donor egg.  I'm new to this so its going to be quite an adventure of emotions, questions, but most important another opportunity to bring a baby or babies home!